Picture this:
Mike, the spiritually competitive Deacon, leans over to his buddy during the potluck and says,
“You ever notice John? I mean, the guy never volunteers or shows up for Bible study. Honestly, I don’t think he’s really serious about his faith. He’s probably just here because his wife drags him along.”
Instead of considering that maybe John’s faith journey is more complex than it seems, Mike’s already decided John’s just phoning it in, turning his own limited observations into a full-blown spiritual critique.
A better approach?
Mike could actually get to know John, offering encouragement and mentorship rather than judgment. Faith is a personal journey, and it’s best not to play the part of the “spiritual meter reader.”
In the end, each of these types of gossip chips away at the very foundation a church is meant to stand on—unity, trust, and love. Whether we’re sharing private information, speculating about someone’s personal life, or subtly undermining others, the damage runs deep. Gossip divides where there should be a connection, and it fosters judgment where there should be grace. It doesn’t just hurt those we talk about—it hurts us, too, pulling us further from the kind of loving, supportive community we’re called to build. Instead of feeding into these harmful habits, let’s choose a better path: one where we address concerns with kindness, approach others with understanding, and create an atmosphere of healing rather than hurt. That’s the kind of church we all deserve.
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