9. He Takes More Than He Gives
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Selfishness is in style these days. In fact, it’s our human nature. Yet, God’s spirit within us helps us be selfless and sacrificial when it comes to loving and serving others. Although you may have heard marriage is a 50-50 arrangement and you must learn to meet in the middle, it’s actually a 100 percent commitment and sacrifice for both parties.
That’s the kind of relationship Jesus taught–giving up your life for the other.
Philippians 2:3-4 instructs, “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.”
If he tends to keep score when it comes to giving up his preferences for yours, or if he expects you to always be the one to make the sacrifice, he is a taker, not a giver. Best to let him always get his way with someone else… and let him go.
10. He Continually Needs Something New
Is he one to go the distance (like 200,000 miles or 20 years) with the same car? Is he the kind to stick with a project until it is completed? Or, does he switch jobs as often as he switches girlfriends? Does he have to have the newest gadget, vehicle, or device the moment it’s released?
If he doesn’t have a habit of sticking with something for very long, that could be a sign that he has trouble committing, or just learning to be content.
A man worth holding onto should have a track record of being able to go the distance with a job, car, home, project, and relationship. But if he’s always trading in the old for the new and doesn’t truly appreciate familiarity (or even something vintage), chances are he won’t stick with you, either.
In that case, best if you make the decision to not stick with him.
Let him go and you be the one who looks for something or someone new.
You are the daughter of the King, and you deserve to be treated as such. If reading this list reminds you of the man you’re with, then remind yourself of your identity in Christ and what you deserve. Trust God to fill in the gaps, and let him go.
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